On July 1st it will be 4 months ago to the day that the world lost a gentle giant. That gentle giant was Daniel Eric Bauder. Dan was my closest cousin and my partner in crime. Marlene Dietrich once said, “It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter” and Dan truly was that kind of person to not only me but tons of other people. The lives he touched will never be forgotten or the impact that he had on those individuals lives. His passion to succeed in both life and school was just two of the amazing qualities that he possessed. Dan was one of the hardest workers that I ever knew. He was a role model and a voice of reason to me. Mitch Albom said, “Death ends a life, not a relationship” I never realized just how true that statement was until I lost Dan. I know that I will never physically be able to talk to him or laugh with him again but the relationship that I had with him will never be taken from me.
One of the biggest things about Dan that people knew about him was his desire to help others. He was always going out of his way to help a classmate study, help a friend through a rough time or just make someone laugh. George Bernard Shaw most have known Dan when he said, “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. This truly embodies what Dan was about.
I know that I will never be able to get my cousin back but I know that his memory still lives on. I know that the impact he had on this world will continue to be felt and he will always be remembered as a gentle giant. The hole that was ripped into my heart by the loss of him will never fully heal but with time I have slowly learned to let this empower me and help me to grow as a person and an individual. I have learned to live everyday like it’s my last. I have learned to also live it as Dan would want me to live it and to do everything to honor his memory. I will leave you with this quote and hopefully it will help inspire you to live a life without regrets and to the fullest. I know that Dan did that and I plan on doing the same thing.
“Every man’s life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and how he died that distinguish one man from another.” Ernest Hemingway
RIP Daniel Eric Bauder
12-22-1989 to 04-01-2012
Gone But Never Forgotten